"The advice you gave me about writing my self-description made all the difference," S.P., Harrisburg, PA. (more)

Let your self-description reflect as accurately as possible who you really are. Remember: you want to reach out to the person who is attracted by your special qualities.

A Few Guidelines:

Don't try to say it all in 60 words. Your self-description should be a verbal snapshot that makes the reader want to find out more about you.

Try to convey what it is that makes you uniquely you: what makes you happy, what concerns you, what motivates you.

Be creative, but don't exaggerate. You are writing a self-description, not a commercial

Be as specific as possible about the kind of person you are, but avoid being too limiting in your description of the person you're seeking. Stay open to possibilities yo'uâve never even considerd.

Provide whatever "vital statistics" you think are relevant.

Here are a few examples to inspire you:

Intelligent SF, 37. Idealist, humanist, feminist fond of men; lover of music, books, hiking, sunrises, sunsets, the flowers (and stopping to smell them). Politics: skeptical, liberal (without apology), concerned. Spirit: questing. Appreciate kindness and a generous spirit; value humor and an open mind; prize affection and communication. Want a partner who knows how to split it down the middle.[E-MAIL]

DWM, 46, 6', 185#. Writer, teacher, ex-activist lawyer come to terms with himself; nonsexist, caring, unafraid of intimacy, traveled, passion for being heard and for listening (closely), for social justice and for ideas. Love being healthy, recreational bicycling, poetry and the blues. Alone for 10 years, want consequential, sharing connection with adventurous, happy, self-knowing, emotionally secure, nonmaterialistic woman. [E-MAIL]

GBM, 36, 6 , 190#. Quiet, attractive, masculine, down-to-earth professional, nature lover, poet, organic gardener. Race is irrelevant to me, but humanistic values, honesty, introspection, and personal growth are very important. Love city streets, mountain paths. Seeking compatible, humorous, sensitive, educated man for commitment and caring. Relocatable. [E-MAIL]

Funloving GF, 49, feminist peace activist seeks likeminded, responsible female, 35-50, for longterm relationship, romance, political and philosophical discussions late into the night and cappuccino in the morning. I am petite, affectionate, enthusiastic, compassionate, custodial parent of my 9-year-old daughter. You are an energetic, healthy woman of wit and grace, distressed by bigotry and hypocrisy. [E-MAIL]

For more inspiration and many more examples, click on Browse Current Membership.

You may revise your self-description at any time during the course of your membership for a fee of $10. Your revised listing, under your current code number, will be posted online and will also appear in the next available Newsletter.

NOTE: We reserve the right to reject any publicly viewable words likely to offend other members.